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  1. The Rabbit who wants to fall asleep review by a Hypnotherapist

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    A review of The Rabbit who wants to Fall Asleep by a Hypnotherapist.

    You may have heard all about the new book that helps children to fall asleep written by a psychologist called Carl-Johan Forssen Ehrlin. As a Clinical Hypnotherapist I was very interested to see this as it seems to use many of the techniques that I myself teach people to help with their children and also the very same ways that I used myself with my own son when he was little. 

    So, is this bestselling book that has topped the Amazon chart really bringing hypnosis into the bedroom?

    The first thing that it mentioned is never to read the book out loud close to someone driving a vehicle. This  of course is something that any hypnotherapist would say to a client when giving them a recording. I always give people who come and see me an MP3 to listen to and the first thing I say is not to listen to it unless they can really be safe and relaxed. At this point it's clear that the book will contain some relaxing language.

    Of course, it isn't anything to worry about. The state of hypnosis is really one of relaxation and that is exactly what you want your child to feel when they are ready for bed. It's perfectly safe and perfectly natural...it's just like daydreaming.the rabbit who wants to fall asleep review a book to help children sleep at bedtim

    You are also told to read certain words in a calm or slow voice. This is setting you up for the fact that the calming voice will relax your child. It's exactly what any hypnotherapist would do when helping you into a calm state of hypnosis.

    You are even told to yawn at points in the story. This is something that I have used myself with great success and I always teach people. You can actually watch your child start to copy you and with a little practice you don't even really need to say much else as you watch them calm and fall asleep.

    The more that you read the story the more that you realise it is written in a way that shows patterns of language that we see in hypnotherapy all the time. It even starts by saying that some people fall asleep easily and other take longer. What this is doing is telling your child that they will fall asleep sooner or later...and that it will happen.

    In fact this is basically a script written for hypnotherapy with children. You are using various techniques that send them off into that daydream and trance.

    Here is a short video where I explain a little more about the hypnotic language and techniques that you can use for yourself to help your child to sleep...

    I suppose the simple fact is that rather than be honest and explain that it is hypnosis for your child, in another form the author has felt that it is better not to touch on that.

    It is a shame because whilst perhaps some people would be put off, this is in fact a real chance to bust some myths about hypnosis and show that it really is just about learning to relax and let go. No one is taking control of your mind, and you can't make anyone do anything they do not want to do.

    It is all about using your imagination. In fact the more that I read the book the more I realised that it is exactly what myself and countless other therapists have been doing with our own children and teaching others to do for years.

    You can easily do the same thing yourself. By telling a story about someone who is much like your child and then showing how they get tired at the end and yawning through it you may well find your child falls asleep easily.

    Of course it is easy for me to say that when I have a lot of practice, for a tired parent I can imagine that this is a godsend.

    There is even a passage where the main character is on a swing rocking back and forth. Does that remind you of the old cliche of a swinging watch? Interestingly a swinging watch is something that shows how our minds and bodies are connected well. Take a look at this video which explains it ...

     

    It uses the idea of thinking about things that make you sleepy. I use exactly the same technique when helping people to overcome insomnia. In fact it is how I first came to hypnosis over twenty years ago when I learnt to let go and sleep soundly myself.

    When a hypnotherapist is taking you into hypnosis they will match your breathing and pace with you then slow it down. Again, this technique is part of the book. The more that you read the more you see that it really is just hypnotherapy for children although clearly not marketed that way. It even contains the idea of relaxing your whole body, we call this progressive relaxation and in fact it is also a key part of mindfulness too.

    So, if you are a parent who needs help then you may well find that this book helps you. My only regret is that there is no mention of the fact that it really is just like a script for hypnosis with your child...why would the author steer clear of saying that? Probably because the publisher still fears that it puts people off. That really is a shame because in fact it could help show that hypnotherapy is perfectly natural and safe.

    You can see the book here on Amazon.   and it is also available as a free download on the authors site in epub form.

    You can read more about hypnotherapy for children here  on this website and contact me via the links at the top if you are looking for help for your child or yourself.

  2. The new book that makes children fall asleep quickly

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    The Book that helps children fall asleep quickly.

    The Rabbit Who Wants To Fall Asleep by Carl-Johan Forssen Ehrlinhas been taking the world of tired parents by storm. But How does the rabbit who wants to fall asleep work? Is it hypnosis for children?

    It is reported that it uses psychological techniques to send children to sleep quickly but what is it really doing?

    The Rabbit Who Wants To Fall Asleep, has been created by Swedish behavioural psychologist and linguist Carl-Johan Forssen Ehrlin and is currently outselling Harper Lee’s Go Set A Watchman and Paula Hawkins The Girl on The Train.

    The 26 page paperback, which is the first self-published work to ever top the Amazon charts, uses psychological and positive reinforcement techniques to help children relax, focus and eventually drift off report the Daily Telegraph.

    When we look at the hints and tips it offers and the way that you are shown to use them, it's pretty clear that what it is doing is using hypnotic language and techniques to really relax your child and help them just slip off into a dreamy nights sleep. the rabbit who wants to fall asleep a book to help children sleep at bedtim

    As a Clinical Hypnotherapist is isn't hard to see how the ways that parents are told to read the book would help to induce calm and sleep in their children. One of the ideas that it suggests is that parents yawn whilst talking and reading the story. You are probably already aware that yawning is contagious and once you start doing it with your child then they start to copy. It's a technique I teach parents and one that I have used myself to help my own child drop off to sleep easier. 

    The book also suggests that you talk in a slow and calm voice. Of course this is how we often speak when using hypnosis with people. It's not about taking control of your mind or doing anything strange like you see on TV. In reality it is just helping you into a calm and relaxed state and it is is quite natural that you may then fall off to sleep yourself. I always give people who work with me an MP3 of any hypnotherapy that we do to listen to at home and often they come back and tell me that they have just fallen asleep listening to it, because they are so relaxed. In fact it is how I came to hypnotherapy and hypnosis myself. I suffered from terrible insomnia, but once I learnt to relax and let go then I realised I can fall asleep easily every bedtime.

    Author Forssen Ehrlin has said  that it is... "the verbal equivalent of rocking a baby to sleep. I had written books before about leadership and personal development using these techniques but I got the idea for a children’s book while I was driving on a long journey with my mother and she fell asleep and I got the idea of how I could use my methods to help children relax. When we stopped I wrote it all down on a napkin but it took another three and a half years to come up with the perfect story so that all the techniques were used in the correct order. It helps the child to focus and makes them a part of the story so that they fall asleep along with the rabbit. They meet characters like Uncle Yawn and the Heavy-Eyed Owl.”

    I was so interested to read the story because in fact it is what I have been doing for years with parents and children helping them to learn how to relax and calm themselves at bedtime. Here's a short video with some tips and tricks you can use for yourself....

     

    Many is the time with my own son when I told him a story all about a little prince who had adventures and then became tired and yawning and fell soundly to sleep, only to watch him do just the same. I have used the same technique with my own nieces too, much to the surprise of my brother who was amazed that I got her to fall asleep so easily!

    As the biggest self published book to appear on Amazon (see it here) via its Createspace service it had already garnered many excellent reviews. Clearly parents who have been asking "How can I get my child to sleep?" are relishing a book that can help them. A new book that helps children fall asleep can help parents through the difficulty of bedtime.

    One reviewer wrote : Amazing :-) if you take the time to read the explanation (instructions) at the beginning about how you should read the font etc you can quickly see how the language choices and emphasis on key words gets through to the child. We have used the book everyday with our 4yr old since we bought it and she has on all bar two occasions fallen asleep before the story ends! 

    Not all the reviews have been positive though another said : This book is ok, does not always work on my little girl though. 

    You can read more and see it for yourself on Amazon here: 

    I do wonder about the longer term prospects. Children of course love repetition in their stories, and perhaps for this reason they may find that they stop seeing it as so effective only time will tell. You can in fact download the ebook of The Rabbit who wants to fall asleep for Free from the Author's website still for the moment too, so you can try it out for yourself.

    If you have any worries or problems with your child you can read more about hypnotherapy for children and how it can help with nerves and anxiety, confidence and even bedwetting here : Hypnotherapy for Children

    You can contact me at [email protected] or call me on 07980 233160

     You can read a REVIEW of The Rabbit Who wants to fall asleep HERE: Hypnotherapists REVIEW