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Category: hypnotherapy for Fears and phobias

  1. How to stop being afraid of public speaking

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    What can I do if I am afraid of speaking in Public?

    Guardian article on Fear of Public speaking

    The Guardian recently published an interesting article all about the fear of public speaking with lots of really great links to help and advice. You can read the full Guardian article here if you want to take a deep dive into all the advice. Here's some of the ideas that I think can really help you to look at speaking to a crowd in presentations, or even for something like a wedding speech.

    They make a really good point about how the most important thing is for a crowd to see that you are at ease. Nerves can be infectious, so if you look nervous the audience will pick up on that and become nervous too. It's not really the words that you are saying that is the most important thing. It is rather the way that you say them...

    "as any public speaker knows, the business of presenting to a large audience is a confidence trick: that is, a speaker who seems to be at ease will put their audience at ease. A speaker with a look of sick terror and a tremor in his or her voice will communicate his or her own baleful vibes of unease to the audience, and enter a vicious circle. A bad joke put over with confidence will get a laugh. A good joke put over apologetically will die on its arse."


    It is good to remember that in fact your audience are probably on your side! They want to enjoy what you are saying if it is a wedding speech, and if you are teaching them something they probably want to understand and learn something from you.

    The article also reiterates one of the most important things...Know Your Audience!

    "That old wine includes knowing your audience, seeking to project authenticity, using relatable narratives and humanising examples, and giving a speech a robust structure with a grabby opening and a memorable payoff. "

    If you know who you are talking to then you can tailor what you are doing to help you as much as them. You don't need to get hung up on the ins and outs. Write some notes up, maybe just a few cue cards. The last thing you should do is read all your notes out. If you can't read it as well as a presenter on Cbeebies doing the bedtime story, then it just isn't a good way to work.

    Be yourself, but.. “So often, people go to the podium and, for all sorts of reasons, pretend to be something they are not,” says Simon Lancaster (author of Speechwriting: The Expert Guide). “People are wise to this bullshit. Just be yourself (which sounds easier than it really is).” That means being the best version of yourself. Speak with notes (advised) or without them if you’re super-confident. But reading the entire speech from a sheet of paper kills the spontaneity (“Readers can’t be leaders”).


    My background is in acting and presenting. I spent many years with a daily BBC Local Radio Show, so if you are looking for some more help you can visit me and learn more about how hypnotherapy and other techniques can mean you can let go of the nerves and really enjoy talking to people.

    Once you learn that you can enjoy it you can find it's a really pleasurable thing to be able to do!

    You can email me on 

    [email protected]

  2. How can I stop having Panic Attacks?

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    What is a Panic Attack?

     How can I stop having Panic Attacks

    Panic attacks can affect anybody. You don’t need to have had a lifetime of anxiety to experience them. In fact they often start after one bad experience.

    Not all Anxiety is bad for us. You may not have thought about it this way but of course those anxious feelings can be something we all experience from time to time.

     

    You can probably remember feeling nervous and tense, even fearful at the thought of taking your driving test, sitting an exam, or starting a new job.

     

    Did you know that short term Anxiety can be useful ?

     

    It’s not all bad because feeling nervous before an exam can make you feel more alert and enhance your performance. I remember how focussed I was when I took my driving test and it helped me through it. I also experienced a great release once it was over and I was told that I had passed. However, if those feelings of anxiety remain and become more permanent they can overwhelm you and cause a panic attack.

     

    What is fight or flight and why does it happen?

    That feeling you experience is designed to protect you from danger. When the time is appropriate your anxiety and fear trigger the release of hormones, such as adrenalin. This sudden rush of adrenalin makes your heart to beat faster to carry blood where it's most needed. Your breath accelerates to provide the extra oxygen required to give you enough energy to run away. You can feel yourself sweating to help cool you down and prevent overheating. Even your mouth can feel dryer when your natural digestive system slows down to allow more blood to be pumped to your muscles. This sudden rush means that all of our senses become heightened and we are so much more alert. We are ready for fighting or running away in an instant.

    This is known as the 'fight or flight' reflex.

    After we have either run away or fought then we find that other hormones are released, these can even cause you to shake as your muscles start to relax. You can feel dizzy with the lack of oxygen that happened in the initial response.

    Because we evolved to have this reaction to a real threat and yet our lives have changed immeasurably we still have not evolved a way to stop these things happening unless we get some help and find out how to break that pattern.

    Even though what can be causing the stress and anxiety may be only in your mind, the fact that the body does not understand the difference between real and imagined means that you may well suffer a panic attack. Once you have suffered one you may find the biggest problem is the fear that you will have another one.

    How long does a Panic Attack Last?

     How long does a panic attack last

    Everyone is different although there are lots of things that panic attack sufferers have in common. Your panic attack can last for between two minutes, five or even 20 minutes.  You may never have another, and many people feel that they are dying or having a heart attack. They don’t just happen during the day either.

    Panic attacks can happen during the night and wake you up sweating and with your heart beating very fast. Often these coincide with periods of intense stress where you have not been able to calm down enough and let go of that stress.

    What can I do to stop a panic attack?

    The good news is that with a little help you can learn how to end your panic attacks. You can take back control of the stress and anxiety in your life and I even help people to break the cycle of panic attacks so that you would even struggle to make yourself have on again.

    If you would like to ask for help you can contact me on [email protected]

    You can also find a FREE How to Stop a Panic Attack Download in my shop which gives you lots more information on how things work.