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  1. Episode 11 - Claustrophobia The Speakmans

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    This is the third week of the This Morning Therapists The Speakmans appearing in their own ITV television show. In this episode they worked with a 62 year old lady who was struggling with her overwhelming fear of enclosed spaces, otherwise known as claustrophobia. As even her own family have said "She is frightened of practically everything.

    Sandra Lloyd is 62 and has suffered from a fear of confined spaces for most of her life. The fear has now taken over so much that things have become very difficult for her.
     She has never been able to fly on an airplane and even find it difficult to go into a public toilet. Even getting into a car is difficult for her. This fear is not as unusual as you may first think. I have dealt with clients who also struggle to be inside cars as well as other spaces.

    Sandra was diagnosed with bowel cancel and her fear is making her treatment even harder and like a military operation. Having an MRI scan is very important to her treatment but the worry of taking part in this part of her treatment is causing her to be even more stressed.

    Her claustrophobia means that she has a fear of lifts and so even after an operation she would not go in the lift to go up one floor.

    In all of the episodes we have seen there have been some heartbreaking stories. This episode perhaps more than any of the others so far shows us the real story and the real importance of overcoming your fears. Many people have arachnophobia and their fear of spiders is something that they do not address, perhaps because it does not really affect them. In this case the claustrophobia being treated by the Speakmans is something that Sandra has a very good reason to address.

    When Sandra and her husband met the Speakmans at their home she explained how it affected her life to Nik and Eva Speakman. She stated that she has also never been on a train or a boat. Talking about how hard it is for her to have a scan was difficult. She explained that to her it felt like being in a coffin.

    When she became ill with cancer it really made things harder before her because she could no longer avoid the things that she was able to in the past. She cannot even go into the oncology department of the hospital and use a toilet in its own room. Things have really reached a point where she can no longer go on. After five years of living with cancer now is the time for her to make that change.

    In this tv show we have seen that the Speakmans are great advocates of family therapy and making sure that all the family have their say. This has worked well in this case, but of course you are also able to ask for help if your family would not want to take part in sessions. It is not something that is needed for everyone and every phobia. Of course some people would not have family support and if this is you then you can still ask for and get help.

    Sandra's daughter also took part in this family therapy session. Jo of course wants her mother to feel better about things and be able to get the support and help she needs with scans and tests.

    Her daughter Jo said that she has always been aware of her mother's claustrophobia, and now she really wants her to be able to do what needs to be done for her cancer treatment.

    We also learned that Sandra had been treated for IBS, irritable bowel syndrome. She threw away a letter from the doctor about this in the past and felt bad about this and what effect it had. IBS is something that is often caused by stress and anxiety and hypnotherapy has been proven to have a massive amount of success in taking back that control. Professor Peter Whorwell has conducted a great deal of study with patients in Manchester.

    We then watched as her family left so that she could continue her therapy with the Speakmans alone.

     After fifty years it was time for Sandra to take back control of the phobia.

    The treatment with The Speakmans

    We went back to the start of her fear with claustrophobia when she was about five years old and was a sleepwalker. Her mum and dad were worried about her so they added a hook and eye to her bedroom door and this meant that she was trapped inside and could not get out. Like most fears and phobias we see that there is an initial sensitising event which takes place and creates the first panic. If that event is allowed to grow then in can lead to the phobia being created and getting worse.

    By looking at the event and reframing it we can see that locking her in the room meant that she did not have a chance to fall down the stairs are this could have been a disaster for her.

    Whilst watching her therapy session it did seem that this was the first time she had been confronted by the idea of why things happend and how to see it differently. In common with their unusual treatment methods, and this is clearly something that is being done for the benefit of the cameras they then put her in a child's playpen...

     

    As a metaphor for her growing up they asked her to press the release button and get out. Do the Speakmans use hypnosis? Of course that depends on what you think hypnosis is. Using a metaphor like this is exactly the sort of "hypnotic language" that hypnotherapists such as myself would use, and you do not need to have your eyes closed to start to think about things in a different way. There are so many ways to deal with any fear or phobia and any good therapist will use a variety of techniques in order to help the client. A good therapist will not decide how they will treat a client's concern until they know what that is. Everyone is different, and deserves their own therapy based on their needs.

    If you have claustrophobia or any other fear or phobia then rest assured that you can overcome it. There is lots of free help and advice on this website about many different fears and phobias. If you are looking for help then speak to two or three hypnotherapists and pick the one who you feel the most comfortable with to work with. Then you can be confident that you can lose any fear or phobia. On average I see clients for issues like this for three to four sessions and most people would understand and see that they could let go of that phobia after a first session.

    You can email me on [email protected] or call me on 07980 233610

  2. How do I contact the Speakmans? Social anxiety

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    This is the Blog of Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist Mark Powlett. I am a fully trained member of the National Council for Hypnotherapy and as well as a Diploma in Clinical Hypnotherapy I also hold a HPD with is a further qualification accredited by the government regulated Ncfe and held by only one in five hypnotherapists. As an independent therapist the information on this blog is for your help and advice in choosing the right person to help you. I am not connected to the Speakmans and the answers here are intended to help anyone searching for advice with any issue that is causing you concern.

     

     

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    Lots of people are contacting myself, and other therapists after seeing the transformation of the people the Speakmans are having on their ITV afternoon TV show. As a Qualified Hypnotherapist people contact me to ask about the help that is available. So, any talk and dicussion about how you can change your life is always a positive thing. Today they dealt with social anxiety. Questions have arisen on social media such as How much do the Speakmans charge and how does that compare to other therapists? What is schema conditioning psychotherapy which they say they use?

    Personally, I am a member of the NCH and qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist. On average people see me for just three or four sessions. Usually they see a change and understand that they can let go of the past after a first session. I also record any hypnotherapy that we do so that you have something to listen to at home. Click HERE to read more.

    Just imagine..how would it feel to let go of everything that was holding you back and ruling your life in just 3 or 4 hours? You really can change your life, end panic attacks and anxiety and enjoy living the life that you want...

     

    So, leaving aside the way that I can help people..let's take a look at what the Speakmans did and how they work in this review of the programme.

    Like all the other episodes that we have seen they involve the family working together. Rest assured that if you are alone you can still deal with your phobia or anxiety disorder. The group therapy that they show on TV is not the way that the vast majority of therapists work. Neither myself or any of the other therapists that are my peers would suggest that you have to have family therapy in order to deal with you concern. The fact that that they only work this way does not represent the real way that they or most people work. It just makes more interesting television even if it may not work for all people in the real world.

    They talk about their use of schema conditioning psychotherapy which they say they created, although sadly they are not willing to share what they actually do with people.

    Karen met her husband David 18 years ago and has three children. She has a generalised anxiety disorder that means she has a phobia of people. Her extreme social anxiety was shown to us in a video that saw her very upset at doing her job as a school cleaner.

    Her anxiety is so bad that she is even missing out on watching her grandchildren grow up. Her son Shane wants to end the situation so that his children can have a relationship with her. She told us that she does not want to be judged by them for her actions so she stays away from them. We were told she had tried medication, books and counselling. Clearly she has not seen a Hypnotherapist before and this is a terrible shame because the techniques that I use as a Clinical Hypnotherapist for anxiety and stress are the same that The Speakmans use. You can see for yourself that change can happen quickly. We do not see everything on the TV show so we miss a lot of the therapy that takes place but the Speakmans actually use many of the same techniques as a hypnotherapist such as myself. All that really happens is that by teaching someone to let go and relax we can help to bring back the life that they really do want.

     

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    When she visited Speakman Hall where Nik and Eva Speakman live they talked about her panic attacks. She runs away from anything that may cause them. I see this all the time in clients and what they often find is that this just makes them worse.


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    It was interesting to hear that she has never spoken to her children about the situation. Clearly she can have no real understanding on how they feel without talking to them about it. She made assumptions about how her family think about her. She had no evidence about this and it is quite common to think you know how people will react to something when you really have no idea.

    Unlike some of the participants in the shows it was clear that she really does have a problem with social anxiety. What is not clear is how she managed to go through any counselling without any of these things coming out before. Sadly she must have chosen a counsellor without really picking the right one. Of course this is something that may well come from her anxiety as well.

     

     

    The most important thing

    It really is important to pick a therapist who is the right one for you. When someone contacts me asking for help I speak to them and also encourage them to talk to other hypnotherapists to make sure that I am the right fit for them. If you have the right therapist for you then you really can move forward. I spend more time helping people to deal with stress and anxiety than anything else. Hypnotherapy is not all about helping people to lose weight or give up smoking. These of course are important parts of what I do but not the main part by any means.

    If you would like help with a social anxiety, stress or any fear or phobia then do feel free to drop me an email from the contact me page.

    So How much do the Speakmans charge for a session? The Speakmans tend to keep their fees off their website but they charge around £4000 for you to have treatment with them. This often takes place in just one session,and would be for a day. That means in reality it would be many hours although such a high fee as the amount that Nik and Eva charge is beyond only a select few.

     As I don't work with celebrities with large wallets I charge just a fraction of that cost and will help you over a number of sessions to make that change it is up to you to decide whether paying extra for the couple because they have celebrity therapist status even though they don't have any formal training is the right thing for you.

    It is important to understand that you can overcome any stress and anxiety and it is better to learn those techniques over a number of sessions and not in an afternoon!

     

    WHO ARE THE SPEAKMANS?
    They are the resident life coaches on This Morning helping viewers to face their fears
    What is Schema Conditioning Therapy?


    Which celebrities have the Speakmans worked with?


    Although the Speakmans do not work with members of the public they do have many celebrity clients.
    One of the first famous faces they worked with was Kerry Katona who at the time was trying to turn around financial and drug problems.
    Speaking at the time, Nik said: “We got her over all those issues and she’s still without medication and drugs today. It’s the Speakman magic.”
    They have also worked with Peter Andre, Liz McClarnon, Katie Price, Holly Willoughby, Vicky Pattison, Linda Robson, Jake Roche and Jeremy Kyle.
    Another celebrity client is Corrie actress Kym Marsh, who turned to the couple to overcome her anxiety of driving on a motorway. She appeared on their television show in a Delorean which they were using as part of their therapy.


    While last year, This Morning host Holly Willoughby was helped by the pair after she admitted a fear of flying.
    Other notable celebrity patients have included Peter Andre, Katie Price, Vicky Pattison, Liz McLarnon and Linda Robson.
    They even helped talk show host Jeremy Kyle overcome his lifelong phobia of spiders.

     

    Update April 2016:

    The Speakmans live tour of the How to be Happy Show has now begun. You can read reviews and leave your own comments if you attended any of the venues where the show took place, as well as finding out what happened at the speakmans live event by clicking the link below....

    NEWS: READ the Review of The Speakmans How to be Happy Tour CLICK HERE

     

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