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  1. He may be better known as a man of mystery and mentalism, a magician who messes with your mind, but now Derren Brown wants to tell you more about your own mind and spread his thoughts on what he feel is becoming more and more elusive... Happiness.

     Happy Derren Brown Cover

    Alongside his TV shows like Pushed to the Edge Apocalypse and Trick or Treat and as well as performing in his stage shows he has also found time to write a new book called Happy: Why More Or Less Everything Is Absolutely Fine. It’s described as a serious-minded inquiry into how “intellectual giants and astonishing thinkers”, as he puts it, from Socrates to the Stoics, Nietzsche and Freud, have tackled the happiness question.

    Earlier in the summer his latest venture, a thrill ride at Thorpe Park called Ghost Train opened so it is fair to say that Derren Brown knows how to juggle as well as do magic tricks.

    In fact he has spent several years researching and writing the book. It’s actually his seventh book and if you have ever read any of the others you will know that he takes the time and effort to write his books. He isn’t the type to employ a ghost writer or fill his book with photographs and pictures just to take up space. If he is going to write about something then he will write thoughtfully and with insight.

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    It's not a Self Help Book

    What he is keen to point out is that this isn’t some sort of self help quick fix book. Speaking to the Huffington Post he explained that he is not a fan of the myths that he feels they put out..

    “There is an idea that is perpetuated by the self-help industry - not just the self-help industry, I think it’s a much richer cultural problem really - that happiness is this sort of thing that we are entitled to, like it’s a sort of commodity.” 

    He explains that this is because often it seems that you can get what you want just magically and that there is nothing other than disappointment in them.

    Perhaps the one book that became a movement that he singles out would be The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, which came out ten years ago and even spawned a film, although perhaps it was the other way round and the film spawned the book depending on your point of view. The basic tenet of that was that if you think positively then you will attract positive energy and in turn great things will happen to you as a result.

    What he doesn’t like is that concept that makes it seem like by wishing and demanding then the universe will give us what we desire. He especially dislikes the fact that it seems to link to money and finance most of the time.

    His view of life is one that is more realistic and perhaps goes back to thinking even further from the past than you may well first realise.

    The Greeks and the Romans understood that in fact in life things will happen that we cannot control, what we can of course call fate.

    He draws on the school of philosophy called Stoicism founded by the Greeks in the 3rd Century BC.  (the name comes from the Stoa Poikile in Athens, a public square where they met) 

    He is at pains to point out that the book is to help people but will not provide all of the answers, especially glib ones.


    "In this wise and perceptive book Derren Brown has conjoined personal experience, profoundly sensible psychology and the magic of philosophy to produce a really excellent account of how to be happy - really, maturely, properly happy. This is a wonderfully educative - and enjoyable! - book, and should be on everyone's reading list, always. " - A.C. Grayling 



    Watch the intervew and Review of Happy from BBC Breakfast below:


    Happy Derren Brown Cover

    Life can be full of anxiety today

    He know that life nowadays can be filled with things that cause us to feel stressed and anxious, just looking at advertising we are fed the images of a perfect life and asked to compare it to our own.

    His approach and theory on finding happiness is to understand that in life things will happen that we just cannot control. Knowing this then we can learn to focus on the things that we can control, this is the basic premise of Stoicism and the main theme of the book.

    Every chapter of Happy ends with a smiley faced emoji which whilst it seems it may simplify the thoughts in fact really does help things to seem perhaps more achievable then they otherwise may be.

    To be happy we must accept that we cannot have it all. The ancient understood that you should limit your desires, because by doing this you value those things more and in turn can value your own happiness with much more ease.

    Speaking to Simon Mayo on Radio 2 he also explained that he does not believe that money itself can buy happiness. "After earning that comfortable amount you do not get happier and happier when you earn more."

    He also explained that he thinks that some people have a personality that can help them to be more predisposed to being happy than some others. He likens it to people having a photographic memory and that in fact you can learn how to do the same things for yourself.

    "I think we are fed a message that happiness is through goal setting. I think that is wrong. You do that while life passes you by and I think that is all wrong and can make you feel that you have failed. It can lead to anxiety and feeling that life has passed you by"

    Asked by Simon Mayo if there was something wrong with positve thinking he explained that wasn't really what he was having a go at. He explained again that in The Secret you can decide what you want and you act as if you already have it and the universe will provide that to you. "First of all this is rubbish, and it is infantile rubbish. Reality is about realising that the universe is quite indifferent to us. If we decide those things we can't control are fine things get easier"

    Asked about Paul McKenna and his book I can make you Happy, he explained that he hadn't actually read it, although he does think Paul is Brilliant.


    "Til now, we've known Derren Brown as a supreme illusionist and magician. Now he surprises us with a new and brilliant identity: as a philosopher. Not just any philosopher. Brown takes philosophy back to its truest task: that of helping us to live and die well. His book is deeply informative, moving, wise and full of love. It sets out to change lives - and it will. Derren has pulled off a properly implausible trick: that of making the deepest ideas relevant, humane and urgent." - Alain de Botton



    There was a point a year or two ago when the media couldn’t get enough of Mindfulness but now it seems to have dropped out of the top ten new ideas. Of course, it’s not new at all, it’s just that sometimes things take a while to become more mainstream. The interesting thing is that he explains that he doesn’t practice it in any formal way, he just takes the ideas and uses them in a way that helps.

    It’s something that I often talk to people about. The real principle is just living in the moment. Not thinking about the past that you cannot change, or the future that hasn’t happened yet. Enjoy the now, take a walk and look at the leaves on the trees  and feel the gentle breeze, it’s what my dog does when he is out, he is a master of living in the moment. That moment often ends up in the lake and he enjoys every moment of that too.

    You can read more reviews of Happy by Derren Brown and buy it from Amazon by clicking the picture below.

  2. A question that I get asked many times a week is this..

    "Can you guarantee that hypnosis will work for me?"

    I see many people who boast on their websites that they do this. It's no coincidence that the same people are often the ones who charge very large fees and also offer to solve all of your problems in a single session. I wonder if the reason for that could be that they only need to see you once because the money is perhaps more important than actually helping people? I don't need to point you to anyone in particular because you may not have seen that type of website. However if you have been searching for help perhaps that idea rings a bell.

    So, let's get to the question. If you ask me if I can guarantee it will work what would I tell you?

    I would reply that not only is it against any kind of advertising rules to tell you that, but that also it would be very unethical. I can tell you that I will always do my best for you, and also that when I see clients they tend to find that on average in 3-4 sessions they have seen some amazing changes and now have the tools to make further changes for themselves as they want them.

    However, I don't know how much you want that if I haven't even started working with you!

    How can I explain this in the most simple way...?

    Well, how could anyone offer you a 100% guarantee when they have never even met you?  

    I do see people doing that and if you stop to think about it then it seems foolish to say the least.

    How can they even know that you really want the help?

    How can they know that you will even turn up to the session with them in the first place?

    I see so many people who already saw someone else who made those kinds of promises to them and then left disappointed. That's not to say that it isn't possible to help people, or that those people could not do it, but the most important thing about any talking therapy is perhaps something that you may not even have considered...

    150 things hypnosis can help you with

    How do I feel about the person who I am working with?

    That's the question you need to ask yourself. It's why it is always worth reading as much as you can about any hypnotherapist that you are interested in seeing. 

    In fact...studies have shown that it isn't the amount of experience, study or practise that your therapist has undergone. It's actually all about how you relate to them.

    You must feel comfortable and confident that they could help you. If you don't feel that they know what they are doing, or if you feel that they do not understand how you feel, then how can they really help you?

    I hope that reading this makes sense and helps you in choosing the right person for you. The simple facts are that we can all benefit from the right help and working with the right person. All that matters is that you really want that help. If you decide that you are ready to work with someone to help you help yourself then you are already on the right road. Bear something else in mind...if you have read all the way to the bottom of this post then perhaps you are ready, and perhaps you really could reach out and ask for help. No one needs to face things alone. Never be afraid to ask. Once you have reached out then everything may well get easier and easier for you.